When I finally met "the one", he was from an almost identical background as I was. Though I don't consider it beneath me, I would, according to the OP, be dating beneath me. Rather than come to my house, he committed a crime.That also may be because I started out in a dirt poor family. No, we're not getting back together, and no, there's no way I could do worse.Our social needs gradually enter into our relationships,though, often in spite of our best efforts.You know he loves you, you know the sex is great and that you two have an amazing connection.So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website.Despite what we like to pretend, all of us are visual, social creatures.
I barely even drink or use drugs so I don't understand why I seem to attract these types to me and I always fall in love while they never seem to give a shit about me.
People will say you are shallow but I don't think so.
lol You know, dating someone that is up to "par" can mean so many different things.
But the thing is I get embarrassed to be seen with him because of the difference between us. I broke up with him to see if I could find someone more suited for me. I'm so happy with him but I'm very uncomfortable with holding his hands or PDA in general. This is a difficult situation to be in, much more so than attempts at describing it would let on.
I found a GORGEOUS guy who fitted exactly what I wanted physically..the guy was dumber than a box of rocks, self absorbed, and the sex was TERRIBLE. So, I finally conceded to interpreting the situation that I'm dating beneath me but I know that he treats me how I've always wanted to be treated even if he isn't what I'm looking for. I think the basic problem you may be having is the same one I have faced in my relationship with my long-term boyfriend. But there is the possibility that his reluctance to "clean himself up" shows a general disregard on his part for how attractive he is to you.